The Placement of the Family in Islam

The Placement of the Family in Islam
The Placement of the Family in Islam

Islam’s concern about the welfare of the family may be shortened in the following points:

    1-Islam emphasizes the principle of marriage to constitute a family and considers it one of the most meritorious deeds as well as one of the practices of Allah’s prophets and messengers. The Prophet r said in this regard, “Sometimes I fast and sometimes I don’t; I engage in night prayer and I also sleep, and I marry women. Therefore, whoever does not follow my practice is not one of my true followers.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 4776; Saheeh Muslim: 1401)

The Qur’an considers quietness, affection and compassion between spouses incalculable and greatest blessings of Allah.

    Amongst the incalculable and greatest blessings that Allah I has given upon us, the Qur’an mentions, are love and tenderness which He has put between spouses: “Among His signs is that He created spouses for you of your own kind so that you might find tranquillity in them, and He has placed affection and compassion between you.” (Soorat Ar-Room, 30:21)
    Islam orders its followers to get married and to make marriage easy for those who seek it to guard their chastity, as the Prophet r said, “There are three people whom Allah will surely help.” Amongst these three he mentioned “a person who wants to get married in order to preserve his chastity.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhee: 1655)
    It also orders young men to get married, for marriage is the right course of action to assist them control their intense sexual impulses and to find quietness in their spouses.

 2-   It has displayed respect to every member of the family, males and females alike.

It has charged the parents with the great responsibility of bringing up their children. ‛Abdullaah ibn ‛Umar t recited that he heard Allah’s Messenger r say, “Every one of you is a guardian and is responsible for those in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a woman is a guardian of her husband’s home and is responsible for it, and a servant is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 853; Saheeh Muslim: 1829)

   3- It fosters children to honour their parents and orders them to express respect and estimation to them, look after them and show them due obedience until their death.

Islam inculcates in children the principle of expressing respect and estimation to the parents.

No matter how old children may be, they are duty-restricted to compley their parents and show kindness to them. Indeed, the Qur’an regards obedience to one’s parents a meritorious deed of worship and warns the believers against being rude to their parents, even by saying a word of disrespect to them: “Your Lord has decreed that you should worship none but Him, and that you should show kindness to your parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say ´Ugh!´ to them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity.” (Soorat Al-Israa’, 17:23)

   4- It orders parents to protect their children’s rights and motivate them to spend on them equally and treat them justly in all apparent things .
   5- It guides its adherents to maintain the ties of kinship by keeping in touch with their relatives from both parents’ sides and showing gentleness to them.

These relatives include paternal and maternal aunts and uncles and their children. Indeed, Islam considers maintaining the links of kinship as one of the most commendable deeds, warns against severing such ties and considers doing so a major guilt . The Prophet r said, “The person who severs the bonds of kinship will not enter Paradise.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 5638; Saheeh Muslim: 2556)
The placement of Women in Islam

Islam has honoured women and freed them from bondage and subordination to men. It has also freed them from being a cheap commodity with no respect or honour whatsoever. Examples of shapes of respect Islam shows to women include the following:

    Islam gives them the right to inheritance, allocating them equitable shares with men, which sometimes differ under specific circumstances depending on their relationship with others and the financial obligations they have to discharge. While men support the family as a matter of religious adherence , women are not forced to spend a penny
    It establishes total justice between men and women in numerous things including financial transactions. As the prophet  said, “Women are the twin halves of men.” (Sunan Abu Daawood: 236)
    It gives them the right to choose ther husbands and places a huge amount of the responsibility of bringing up children upon them, as the Prophet  said, “A woman is a guardian of her husband’s home and is responsible for it.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 853; Saheeh Muslim: 1829)
    It gives them the right to maintain their maiden names. In Islam, a woman does not change her surname to that of her husband upon marriage, as is common in many parts of the world; rather, she saves her maiden name, and thus her independent personality.
    It makes it the husband’s obligation to spend on those women entitled to his support, such as his wife, mother and daughters, without attempting in the least to remind them of his favours.
    It emphasizes the significance of assisting weak women who are in need of support, even if they are not one’s relatives, and motivates its followers to engage in such a noble deed , regarding it one of the meritorious acts in the sight of Allah. The Prophet  said, “The person who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a warrior who fights for Allah’s cause, or like one who performs prayers all night without slackness and fasts continuously and never breaks his fast.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 5661; Saheeh Muslim: 2982).

Women That Islam Enjoins Muslims to Look after

The Mother: Abu Hurayrah  recited that a man once asked the Prophet , “To whom should I show kindness most?” “Your mother,” he answered . The man said, “Then who?” The Prophet [again] said,“Your mother.” The man further asked, “Then who?” The Prophet  replied,“Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet  said, “Then your father.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 5626; Saheeh Muslim: 2548)

The Daughter: ‛Uqbah ibn ‛Aamir  recited that he heard Allah’s Messenger  say, “Whoever has three daughters and he remains patient with them, supplies for them and clothes them from his money, they will be a shield for him from the Hellfire on the Day of Resurrection.” (Sunan Ibn Maajah: 3669)

The Wife: ‛Aa’ishah ~ recited that Allah’s Messenger  said, “The best among you are those who are best to their wives, and I am the best amongst you to my wives.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhee: 3895)

Islam regards the relationship between husband and wife to be complimentary, each of which treatments the deficiency of each other in building the Muslim society.
No position for a Conflict between the Sexes

The Conflict between men and women ended with either men gaining power over women, as in some pre -Islamic societies, or with women rebelling against their innate natural predisposition, as in some other non-Muslim societies which have refused Allah’s laws.
This only occurred as a consequence of refusing Allah’s guidance. As the Qur’an states, “Do not covet what Allah has granted to some of you in preference to others — men have a part of what they acquire and women have a part of what they acquire; but ask Allah for His bounty. (Soorat An-Nisaa’, 4:32) Indeed, Islam has honoured both men and women, and allocated each of them distinctive characteristics and roles whereby they may strive to gain Allah’s rewards and attain His pleasure. It does not grant preference to any of the two sexes; rather, it aims to boost the welfare of the individual in general and that of society at large..

Therefore, there is no such thing in Islam as a conflict between the sexes; there is no need for a fierce rivalry for worldly pursuits between them; nor is there a necessity to launch an attack against either of them in an endeavors to disparage, harm, criticize or find flaw with any one of them.
All this is vain in Islam and constitutes a misunderstanding of Islam’s view of the roles it has assigned to each one of them. In Islam, each one of them has a portion according to what they have gained in both material and spiritual terms. Instead of envying each other, they are demanded to ask Allah to grant them more of His bounty through legal labor and through prayer.

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