The Wife’s Rights

The Wife’s Rights

The Wife’s Rights

conservation and habitation
A Muslim man is duty-bound to help his wife and children in kindness.

The wife’s conservation requires her incontestable right to food, drink, clothing, general care and a appropriate home, even if she is rich. 
How is the amount of conservation calculated? The husband ought to spend on his wife in accordance with his means without squandering or miserliness, as the Qur’an states, “Let the man of means spend according to his means: and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him.”(Soorat At-Talaaq, 65:7)
He must spend on her in kindness, without ever implying that he is doing her favours or insulting her in any way whatsoever. Indeed, such conservation is not a favour but a obligation he ought to discharge towards his wife in kindness, as the Qur’an clearly exhorts him.
When a Muslim man accomplishes his obligation  of supporting his wife and children, he will be rewarded amply by Allah, as the Prophet  said, “When a man spends on his family, anticipating Allah’s reward in the hereafter, this act of his will be counted as a deed of charity.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 4776; Saheeh Muslim: 1401) He also said, “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel of food which you put in your wife’s mouth.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 56; Saheeh Muslim: 1628) Those who reject , or desert their obligation to spend on their families despite their capasaty to do so committing a terrible guit for their negligence, as the Prophet  said, “A man who neglects those who are under his care would surely be committing a sin.” (Sunan Abu Daawood: 1692)
Living with Them in Kindness
This means showing good character, kindness, gentleness in word and act and putting up with the occasional flaws and negligence. As the Qur’an states, “Live together with them courteously and in kindness. If you dislike them, it may well be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good.” (Soorat An-Nisaa’, 4:19)
The Prophet  said, “The believers who have complete faith are those with the best character, and the best of them are those who treat their women the best.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhee: 1162)
The believers who have perfect faith are those with the best character, and the best among you are those who treat their wives the best.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhee: 2612; Musnad Ahmad: 24677)

The best of you are the kindest towards their wives, and I am the kindest amongst you to my wives.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhee: 3895)
One of the Prophet’s comrades once asked him, “Messenger of Allah, what is the right the wife of one of us has on him?” he said, “To feed her whenever you feed yourself and to clothe her whenever you clothe yourself; do not slap her across the face, revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.”(Sunan Abu Daawood: 2142)
Patience and Forbearance
A man must make tolerance for women’s nature, which is clearly different from that of men;he must also attempt to look at life from all sides, considering the advantages and disadvantages of his wife, for no one is free from flaws. Both spouses must exercise patience and take into account the positive aspects of each other’s personality, as the Qur’an states, “Do not forget to show kindness to each other.” (Soorat Al-Baqarah, 2:237) The Prophet  also said in this respect, “A believer must not conceal any resentment against a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will surely be pleased with another.” (Saheeh Muslim: 1469)

The Prophet  arouses men to treat women with kindness, pointing their attention to the fact that women’s sentimental and psychological nature is different from that of men, that such differences between men and women are in actual fact complementary and must in no way give rise to discord and eventual divorce. The Prophet  said, “Treat women well and with kindness, for a woman was created from the rib and thus she will not be straightened according to your way. If you want to enjoy her, you will have to enjoy her with her twist. If you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 3153; Saheeh Muslim: 1468)
Spending the Night with the Wife
The husband is recommended to spend the night with his wife and must do so at least once every four days. He must also consider equal division of nights between co-wives in cases of polygamy.
Defending Her, Representing His Honour
When a man marries a woman, she becomes his ‘honour’ which he must stubbornly defend even if he gets killed in the process, as the Prophet  said, “Whoever is killed defending his wife is a martyr.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhee: 1421; Sunan Abu Daawood: 4772)
Not exposing Bedroom Secrets
The husband must not talk to others about his wife’s particularities and bedroom secrets to other people. The Prophet  said, “The worst person in the eyes of Allah on the Day of Judgement is that couple who have an intimate relationship with each other and the man then reveals their bedroom secrets to others.” (Saheeh Muslim: 1437)

Not Engaging in Offensiveor Hostile Actions against her
To solve marital troubles , Islam has laid down a number of rules, containing the following:
Troubles may be solved through constructive dialogue and wisdom in order to correct faults .
In cases of rebellion, disloyalty and ill-conduct, the husband may stop talking to her, but without exceeding three days; if this course of action does not seem to work, then he may temporarily abandon her in bed or refrain from the usual sexual familiarity , but without leaving the house.
‛Aa’ishah ~ recited , “Allah’s Messenger  never hit anything with his hand ever, except when fighting in the path of Allah. Nor did he ever hit a servant or a woman.” (Saheeh Muslim: 2328)
Teaching and Advising Her 
The husband must instruct his family members to act rightly and prohibit them to act inappropriately. He ought to strive hard to aid them follow the path that leads to Paradise and avoid those paths that lead to Hellfire. Teaching them by precept and example, he can do so by acting on obeying Allah’s orders and evading  things He has prohibited. The wife must also advise her husband, direct him to the right path and discuss with him ways of giving the best possible upbringing to their children. As the Qur’an states, “O You who believe, safeguard yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones.” (Soorat At-Tahreem, 66:6) The Prophet  also said in this regard, “Every one of you is a guardian and is responsible for those in his custody.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 2416; Saheeh Muslim: 1829)

Honouring the Conditions provided by the Wife
The husband must honour the marriage contract and accomplish the conditions provided in it.

If the wife makes a stipulation at the time of concluding the marriage contract, such as having a specific sort of accommodation or expenses and the husband agrees to such a condition, he must accomplish such an obligation, for a marriage contract is one of the most solemn agreements and obligations. The Prophet  said, “Of all the conditions which you have to fulfill, the conditions which make it legal for you to have sexual relations (i.e. the marriage contract) have the greatest right to be fulfilled.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree: 4856; Saheeh Muslim: 1418)

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